Marriage is precious SUBSTANCE that was not created by humans, but CONSUMED by humans. Every man and woman, irrespective of gender, influence, affluence or color is a product of marriage. It is also known that societies are products of marriages. We have come to realize that the best critics of marriage are incidentally products of marriages.

 

We all came from marriages, but many people do not know or understand the source of marriage. Marriage, I must admit is not an idea; neither is it stage of life, which everyone must get to. Marriage is an institution - an establishment by royal will and statue that is legal and loving. We were all sourced in marriages; hence, we are all sourced in the royal will and love-full legal establishment. 

 

Marriages that lack these crucial elements - Royal will, love and the law is perhaps a pseudo-marriage, which will produce pseudo societies and people.

 

After God created the earth, He created man to be in charge; but after a short while, God said, "It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper, suitable for him". If you read between the lines, you will discover that God is the source of the marriage, and He is the Sole One that makes helpers for men as suitable companions. It is also clear that every woman is created, fabricated, fashioned and formed to help every man so assigned by God.

 

The big thing here is, it is not a woman that makes a decision of who to help; neither is the man. God is the one who takes responsibility to making suitable companions on the earth for the purpose of marriage; and He alone knows how to connect any man with his helper and companion. But in instances where men take it upon themselves to scout for ladies around - they actually end up finding ladies, but missing helping companions. 

 

Women are wired by God to provide both companionship and help; however, haphazard matching of men and women by men and women will end up producing conflicting marriages and pseudo-marriages.

 

What then is Toilet-Love Syndrome? By virtue of our make up - how God designed us, we eat what whatever we feel like eating, whenever we feel like eating them. However, after a while, we FEEL PRESSED from inside, and we become restless until we find a REST ROOM. We so much LOVE rest-rooms, but only when PRESSED. I also discover that we LOVE rest-rooms so much when PRESSED that we do not always CARE about the cleanliness of a rest-room before using it. And guess what, after EASING ourselves, the last places we want to stay in are the REST-ROOMS! What a place?

 

....Now when she had brought them to him to eat, "he took hold of her and said to her, "Come, lie with me, my sister."
But she answered him,"No, my brother, do not force me, for no such thing should be done in Israel. Do not do this disgraceful thing!....... However, he would not heed her voice; and being stronger than she, he forced her and lay with her. Then Amnon HATED her EXCEEDINGLY, so that the HATRED with which he HATED her was greater than the LOVE which he had LOVED her. And Amnon said to her, "Arise, be gone!"

 

2 Samuel 13:1-15

 

Can you begin to imagine the number of women that men said, "Arise, be gone!" to? The truth is, many women are in silent pains, which they think they must endure. Some even tell themselves, "But he LOVED me!" I am not saying that those guys did not and do not love them; I am only saying as inspired now that the guys had and has TOILET-LOVE for them.

 

Toilet-Love is the kind of love that is used or engaged or called upon to satisfy an imminent of present urge of men. I must be clear, some few men are also victims - when ladies tell them to lie with them, just as Potiphar's wife wanted Joseph. What will you call such love? That was a toilet-love! 

 

If any woman, irrespective of her education, age, "spirituality" or experience marries on the basis of a toilet-love; such a woman will groan in silence for life. Toilet-love cannot be trusted for a lasting, selfless and tolerant relationship. Have you wondered while your husband frowns with you daily, but smiles for 10 mins on the bed? You cannot continue to fool yourself that maybe he will change; it is not just his attitude, neither is it just understanding. It is his spirit! Love is God and God is Spirit; therefore any kind of love that is not the true love that is sourced in God is a spirit that is not sourced in God. Do not stay close to any man or woman who claims to love you, but only shows it when PRESSED! 

 

Marriage is an endless journey of life and purpose; you cannot afford to be living in cheat or dying in love. You are a product of Love, God founded marriage on HIMSELF; hence, only by through genuine LOVE can any marriage be effective and correctly fruitful. Will you break off from the shackles of toilet-love syndrome today, or are you going to be smeared by it? It is your choice; I have made mine to share this burning revelation with you from my spirit - I just hope that your spirit receives it! I am happily married to my Wife and Queen Omolara Oluwaseun. I can only hope for more opportunities to make her joyful and fruitful in God's purpose for us as His representatives on earth!